A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: the Ground Rules
Ok, let’s get into the basics, and by that I mean the basics of how this is going to proceed. In an effort to avoid being nerd raged spammed I will lay out where I am coming from and what I expect from those of you who might read this.
1. None of these are directed at you specifically. Don’t send me “I never do that” emails.
2. Almost all of the mistakes I will be talking about I have made. I am not kidding when I say I have learned all this the hard way. 
Like this World of Warcraft shirt says, I am classically trained.
3. If I advise you to do something and you think “There is no way women respond to that” before emailing me please take the time to ask a couple non-nerd women and see what they say. You will be surprised, especially on the grooming issues.
4. These tips and guidelines are very general and situational. I am sure the girl you are interested in is an exception to every rule I lay out here. However, if you have been courting (stalking) her for more than a couple weeks why don’t you try some of these things before posting a “Dave you’re an idiot” response.
5. With regards to questions about my posts I will be happy to reply as well as I can but do me a favor and keep your questions as general as possible. I don’t need to hear all the gruesome details of the object of your unrequited love (“and then the third time I saw her she was wearing the same shoes as the second time but different jeans…“) and like I said, each person is different and only you can interpret her actions and comments (although if you take my advice, you will not). If you have a situation describe it as succinctly as possible and I will be happy to respond.
6. While I support any lifestyle you may or may not choose to follow, I am straight and therefore my knowledge base is more or less geared towards trying to date straight women. Lesbians may find some worthwhile advice here (although not really, I think. I lived with two lesbians for a while and there is a whole different interaction I could never really understand), but gay men and women seeking straight men (honestly, if you are a woman having trouble dating nerd men than you have problems that go beyond the scope of any blog. Just go to a comic book convention) I will not be able to help as much.
7. Finally, if you are a woman reading this blog and feel the need to comment, please do so. However, I feel that comments on the “Women never do that” level will more or less be a waste of time. My advice has been forged on the anvil of dating pain and it will take more than a blistering response to change it. I think if you read thoughtfully you will find, as the Mensa women at my first lecture did, that my advice is rather pithy and will actually make the men who follow it easier to date for you. Know that I do respect women but am in all things a realist. If you have a question about men and how to date them feel free to post and I will give you my best advice, but it is kind of out of my scope.
Next Post: Part 1 Grooming
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