Star Wars Junkie Finds True Love!
I have never fit in with the mainstream crowd. This has always been sad for me, not fitting in that is. The only comfort that I have had over the years is my love of Star Wars characters. I could sit and play with my Star Wars action figures all day. In fact, I used to pretend like I was the Princess Leia figure and wore Star Wars t-shirts to school everyday.
I never thought I would find someone to share my love of Star Wars; I never thought there was someone out there that appreciated a life that consists mostly of action figure play. Low and behold – I did. I met the love of my life at a Star Wars convention. I guess there’s someone out there for everyone.
A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: How to start talking to them Part 5
Time to delve into a tough subject for most nerd guys. Shutting up and letting the girl talk.
This is tough for most nerd guys. We start to feel nervous talking to women and the defensive mechanism is to fill the awkwardness with examples of our wit and verve. Also, we really think we need to impress her somehow by showing her how much intellect and knowledge we have. However, this is a huge trap (thank you Admiral Akbar) that a lot of nerds fall into for most of their life.
Here is why it is a bad thing. If there is one thing most women love it is a mystery. Guys that are mysterious are by nature sexy. Women feel compelled to dig more and more until they understand the guy as well as they can (which is pretty poorly, to tell the truth, but they like to believe they have accomplished their goal). If you shut up early on and make her work for every tidbit then by the time she has you figured out you have been in a relationship with her for a couple years.
The fact is, familiarity breeds contempt. No matter how cool and put together you or any other guy is, you have things that annoy women just by having a Y chromosome. As a mysterious figure out of a romance novel she 
knows nothing about your bad habits or obsession with Boba Fett (shirt image courtesy of the Star Wars t shirt section) or any number of other things that she will have nothing but contempt for. As she learns of them your chance of seeing her naked drops.
Think of it as a score. When you first meet a girl imagine she assigns a score from 1-100 to you. If you are super good looking or super rich you are probably in the 80-90 range. If you are horribly disfigured or just the wrong body and/or facial type you might be in the 30-40s. Most of us end up in the middle range. Bottom line each girl has a minimum score they require in order to sleep with you. Every time you open your mouth you risk losing points. Granted, there is the chance of gaining points, but unless what you are about to say is “I am the owner of a multi-million dollar corporation” then I think it fair to say the odds of losing points grossly outweighs the chance of gaining points.
So bottom line, say next to nothing about yourself. If I have done well talking to a girl then I know a ton about her (fodder for future conversations) while she knows my first name and maybe a vague idea of what I do for a living. That’s it. Every thing she knows about you is less chance to get anywhere with her.
I’m not saying don’t answer her questions. That would be weird. But every time she asks you something answer with as few details as possible and turn it into a question about her. For example:
Girl: “So, Dave, what do you do for a living?”
Dave: “I run a web site. We sell t-shirts. What do you do?”
Girl: “I work in marketing.”
Dave: “Really? Have you worked on any campaigns I might have seen?”
See how that worked? I answered her question and gave her the opportunity to talk about herself for another five minutes.
Eventually she will learn all your bad habits and idiosyncrasies, but by that time you should be already sleeping with her and she will develop other relationship ties that will keep her from kicking you to the curb.
This point is kind of near to my heart, as it is the one piece of my advice I really struggle with. It is so easy to talk about myself with a girl and say too much. Just recently I was dating a girl. She caught the flu or something and was sick, so instead of sleeping together we would talk a lot via phone and text. Bottom line is she learned too much about me before we slept together and I got dumped. Remember, familiarity breeds contempt.
Next post: the Two Minute Rule.
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Looking forward to Kick Ass
I am probably going to get crap from 100% of my friends, but I have been looking at trailers for the new movie Kick Ass and am really looking forward to it. It looks really fun. I am a big Nick Cage fan as well, and he is looking very Raising Arizona-ish in this one. I hope I am not setting myself up for disappointment, but I will definitely watch it in spite of how it’s reviewed, and will probably put shirts into my comic book t shirt section.
Of course, I loved Mystery Men, so this one will have to really suck to disappoint me.
Anyway, just got done uploading some new Star Wars shirts, including this particular gem. I love this one. Stormtroopers are so freaking cool. I’m going to be adding more girls shirts tomorrow too.
That’s pretty much it. I just wanted to comment on Kick Ass after having seen the trailers.
Lego Universe, and more about NASA
So I was talking to my friend Dave this afternoon and he told me he saw yesterday’s rant about how NASA is getting gutted. His point was that they are a bunch of babies and have not pushed hard enough and I have to admit, he’s got a point. Given the amount of money we have spent on that program we should be living on Mars by now. We were on the moon 41 year ago and not done much since.
On the other hand, it’s really all we have so I guess we need to keep supporting it. Please write your senators, congressman, and the President and tell them to find some of this stimulus money for something that could help all of humanity.
He then told me he got on the Beta test for Lego Universe, the new Lego MMORP. As a screaming Lego fan and massive MMORP addict it sounds both perfect and horrible to me. I have actually backed off on playing WOW in favor of working on my site, and don’t know if I can afford to get hooked on another one. He says the game is pretty cool, and usually has a good opinion. On the other hand, he liked the Star Trek MMORP and I found it kind of boring, to be honest.
Speaking of Lego and outer space, I recently found this Lego Star Wars t shirt and put it up in my Star Wars T shirt section. I played the hell out of that game and got it to 98.7% done. I gave up once I got to the timed runs. Too frustrating to keep playing. Great time up until then, and I still bust it out when I get bored.
Star Wars: World’s Most Successful Franchise
While numerous science fiction and fantasy films leave a cult following in their wake, the ride is soon over when the films deteriorate or stop being produced. However, unlike most other media cults, Star Wars persevered for almost three decades before the series saw a revamp on the big screen. However, the first two new films were met with contempt from hardcore fans of the series. While characters like Jar Jar Binks appealed to children, adults who loved the original Star Wars movies found him pointless and darn near irritating.
When the second movie was released it was clear that director/producer George Lucas had lost some of his skill. The third movie, Revenge of the Sith, served as a suitable end to the series, but it still failed to instill the same magic that the originals had. Despite mediocre reviews, the movies grossed significant revenue. The most successful part of Star Wars however comes from the merchandising—from Star Wars t shirts to books and video games inspired by Lucas’ vision. Every year the revenue generated from movie-inspired merchandise keeps Lucas cranking out more.
