Nerd Dating: the fine art of eye contact
So I am at a loss for a series to do right now. I will just do single posts about things that I think will help, along with stuff I find interesting. Today I will talk about eye contact.
Eyes are the windows of the soul, and if you cannot make and maintain eye contact people will never feel like they know you. There is a reason “shifty eyed” is a phrase that means untrustworthy. If you are trying to connect with someone, you have to make eye contact. By the way, this habit will not only serve you well in dating but in all aspects of life, especially work.
This has always been a challenge for me, as I am constantly distracted by any kind of movement and often find myself staring at someone’s mouth as they speak. However, if you are by nature kind of introverted than it is likely you spend a lot of time looking at the ground, or the cat, or over someone’s shoulder. Of course, if you are kind of a moron you are staring at the girl’s breasts, which will make you look like a neanderthal. Getting in the habit of looking into her eyes will help keep you from making this error.
If you aren’t in the habit, start off staring into your own eyes in the mirror. Do it while brushing your teeth or whatever. Also, putting a mirror near where you like to make phone calls can be great practice of talking while looking into eyes. Practice makes perfect. If you have another friend with the same problem try doing staring contests with each other. Dumb, but every bit helps. Also, try playing poker. Something about it naturally makes you want to look into each other’s eyes.
However, remember that when you are talking to a girl it isn’t a staring contest. You need to give her a break once in a while. Odds are she will look away at some point, which is a good chance to blink and so on. If you are trying to get the waiters attention look away. Honestly, don’t act unnaturally. Just whenever you are talking to her try to be looking in her eyes.
That’s it. Short but sweet, as I have a ton of work to do tonight. I’ve kind of lost track of 
my who would win thing so I will start over with who would win; Joker versus Lex Luthor? (Joker image courtesy of the Batman T-Shirts category)
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