A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: Dating Etiquette Part 1
OK, you have more or less done everything you need to do to prepare and are looking to actually pick her up and take her out. Let’s talk about behavior while on the date.
First question is do you pick her up or meet her somewhere. Either answer is in general ok, but consider the circumstances carefully. First of all, what kind of car do you drive? Most women will claim to not care what kind of car you drive, and some of them will actually believe that, but secretly in my opinion they do. It’s part of that constant evaluation of your stability and potential partner value that they are running you through the entire time like a continuous feed Scantron of your soul. If the car is a piece of junk then it looks like you don’t have the ability to potentially provide or partner up with her. Also, if your car is beat up, dirty, and has a smell reminiscent of wet dog and ass you will look slovenly.
Also, in my experience women rarely understand what is cool from a nerd perspective (unless you are dating a nerd, in which case you are a lucky bastard) so if you have a “nerd cool” car like a KITT replica (shirt courtesy of the television show t shirt category) or classic Galaxy 500 odds are she will not get the idea and you will diminish in her eyes. Women in general like it when your car blends in with all the other run of the mill junk out there. Sad but true, in my experience.
So, if your car fits into any of those categories, push to meet her somewhere. If you have a “normal” car you can ask to pick her up. Don’t push too hard, because you are asking her to trust you enough to tell you her address. If she has you pick her up that means she trusts you somewhat. This is a good sign. If she doesn’t don’t sweat it. Odds are she doesn’t trust any guys (not necessarily a bad policy for women, given a lot of the guys I know).
Best way I have found to ask if I could pick her up is something like this:
“So, do you want to meet somewhere in the modern method or go more traditional and I can pick you up”
Work on the deliver, but this generally works. Even if she doesn’t want to have you pick up, she will laugh.
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Phil July 29, 2010 at 6:48 pm
Funny. “…and has a smell reminiscent of wet dog and ass you will look slovenly.”
I suppose at some point you’ll have to clean up that car or she’ll tell you to later on.