A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: Where to meet them
Finally some real content. You’ve showered recently, cut your hair, groomed in all ways possible, bought new clothes, and are twice the man you were before you started reading my blog (all things being relative). Now, where can you go to meet some girls?
This is the question most guys use an an excuse to not do any of the self improvement things I have suggested. “I never meet girls and don’t know where to find them. Therefore, I shouldn’t put any effort into dressing better and bathing.” This is a sadly self fulfilling prophesy, as if you don’t put in the effort required to meet women you won’t meet them and will therefore lack the motivation required to actually put in the required effort. It is a snake eating it’s own tail. However, remember that the surest sign of psychosis is doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting different results. Time to break that chain.
The fact is there are single, attractive women everywhere. I guarantee that unless you are living in some Unibomber style shack in the middle of nowhere there is a single women within 1000 yards of where you are sitting. You could run into one at any moment of any day (yet more motivation to bathe and dress well every day. Nothing will annoy you more than putting in all the effort six days out of the week and meeting a hot girl on the seventh where you opted to not shower or change your underwear. As we used to say in the Boy Scouts, Be Prepared). You have to be open for it and you will be shocked at what drops into your lap.
That being said, obviously there are places where you are more or less likely to meet girls. Let us start off with a list of placed where you are very unlikely to meet any.
1. Your apartment-fact of the matter is, a lifetime of romantic comedies and bad porn has lied to you. The girl of your dreams is not going to be delivering pizza, installing your cable, or banging on your door in a desperate attempt to get away from a zombie horde any time soon. I can promise that you have a better chance of finding a pristine Action 1 comic pressed in a stack of old magazines than having a hot single girl at your apartment without a great deal of effort on your part (image courtesy of the comic book t shirt section).
2. Your favorite comic book or game store-yes, I know these fabled women exist out there, but it has been my experience that any girl “into comics” has actually been brought into this world by her (most likely) current boyfriend and will lose all interest as soon as she dumps him. With the exception of the odd rogue planetoid there are no single women in these places.
3. Comic book or gaming convention-oddly enough there are women at these in almost workable numbers. The problem will always be that for every single woman present there will be at least 100 single guys, an unhealthy percentage of whom will be celebrities of some kind (comic artist, etc.). This ratio (hereafter referred to as a “sausage fest”) will just frustrate you.
4. Bars and clubs-yes I know these are the “traditional” place everyone thinks is where to go to meet women, but in truth it will suck for you as well. If you had the ability to pick up a girl at a bar and hook up with here you wouldn’t be reading this. Anyway, even if you were to learn how trust me when I say you will never get anything long term from these places except a social disease. The goal of this blog is to see you embark on a relationship, not hooking up with Bimbozilla at the local dive bar.
That’s more or less it for places to avoid on your quest to find love. I’ll get more into better places in Part 2 on my next post. Keep the nerd faith!