Nerd dating: Dating on a budget pt 2
So your are broke and lonely. Nothing would help comfort you than the company of an attractive, intelligent, witty, fun, and exciting girl. Unfortunately, those girls only date guys who actually have money, right? WRONG!
Trust me, one of the great frustrations of my life has always been that it seems like the women I am most attracted to always seem to be dating complete and utter losers. We will get more into that later, and to be honest that is more a malfunction in womens brains (at least, the women I seem to be attracted to) than in your dating process, but for now we are on the subject of having a good time dating with no money.
Like I said before, most women (at least, the ones worth dating) are not avidly money hungry. However, being broke is not impressive for even the most non-material girl. All women, however, will claim to not be into it for the money.
The thing is, even if the girl you are asking out is a saint and does not care that you live in this palatial estate (trailer image courtesy of the novelty t shirt category), almost all women find the subject of money dirty and distasteful. In their minds it is something that they don’t even want to handle or deal with. You might notice that women seem more willing to use credit or debit card than men (statistically this is true). Cash is dirty, and talking about money is gauche.
What does this mean to you? Simply put, don’t talk about your finances. You don’t have to say “I can’t afford movie tickets tonight.” Instead, say something like “It’s such a nice night. How about a walk through the park?” We’ll get into more specific cheap alternatives to spending money later but you should practice never talking about what is going on.
You really aren’t fooling anyone, by the way. Women are pretty astute in this regard, and most of them will figure out that you don’t have a lot of money to burn pretty quick. However, if she likes you (ah, another test for her) she will put up with it up until the point that you rub it in her face. This is part of the trick the total loser guys who get hot girls pull. Deep down inside the girl knows he is a loser, but because he never gives her incontrovertible proof of his loser status she can turn a blind eye and more or less live the lie that he is actually a decent human being and not a hairless primate.
Anyway, bottom line, don’t talk about money, or how much stuff costs. Like I said before, find the positive. A NetFlix movie, a couple candles, and take out Chinese food can be quite the romantic evening and sound more appealing than an elaborate night on the town if you spin it right. The fact that it costs about 1/4 what the night out is merely coincidental.
