A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: Clothing Part 1
It has been said that clothing makes the man, and this is absolutely true, at least when it comes to impressing women. We’ll talk more later about how women evaluate the men they meet (in my experience and opinion) but for now you should know that women are capable of making assessments regarding your eligibility as a dating partner in micro-seconds, and a lot of it has to do with clothing, both directly and indirectly.
You don’t have to dress like a GQ model (and in fact, in most cases you look work even worse just by trying), but you need to look like you are making the effort. There is very little that makes me laugh more than seeing a couple out on a date where the girl obviously spent a considerable amount of time (sometimes on the order of a couple hours) looking good and the guy looks like he just rolled out of bed.
Fortunately it is the nature of being a guy that your grooming process can take 1/6th of the time it can take a woman, but you really don’t want to look like you only took 1/10000th the time, and the easy way to get around that is to dress up a bit.
Now, given the nature of my business it should be obvious that I love and appreciate t-shirts like this awesome Bruce Lee one from the movie t shirt section, but if you think the time for a t-shirt is all day every day, you need help. There is a time and a place, and even when I opt to wear a t-shirt it is clean, as am I and the rest of my attire.
When should you dress up? We will get into when and where you can expect to meet women (although honestly, the only place you can count on not meeting a girl is on your own couch) but honestly, anytime you cannot be sure you will NOT meet a girl you should do what you can to dress up. Standard apparel for me is a collared shirt, good jeans or slacks (usually chinos), and leather shoes.
I am not recommending you change your entire attire (in fact, remain true to yourself) but like putting a coat of paint on the outside of a house to increase it’s resale value, putting on some better clothing can add a lot of value to yourself.
I would like to also add that every time I get dressed up (especially in a suit) I feel sharper and most importantly, more confident.
Anyway, like I did with grooming I will address each attire section in a different blog post.
Next post: the basics