A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: Making the call Part 4
Here’s where we talk about email or Facebook rather than a phone call. 
I can’t think about Facebook these days without picturing this shirt (image courtesy of the horror t shirt category).
First of all, know that you are actually in for a bit of a more difficult time here. If a girl gives you an email or Facebook rather than a phone number that usually means she is less into you than she might have been. Email or Facebook is for girls a nice, soft way to blow you off without having to deal with rejecting you to your face. That being said, I have successfully dated women who I started off communicating via email, so don’t give up.
Like the voice mail, keep it simple. You can even follow the guideline I gave last post for voice mail. However, as there is more room to communicate there is a certain amount of pressure to make some kind of non-essential personal comment. I usually roll with a joke or something. You also have to have an modest idea of what you would like to take her out to do. Here is what a typical first email might look like:
“Hi (girl’s name here). You gave me your (email/Facebook page) the other day at the (event) where we (talked about something/did something together). Did you ever (find your contact lens/figure out who was wearing that clown outfit/put out that brushfire/etc)? LOL.
I was thinking we should (get coffee/see the movie she expressed interest in/go to the pistol range/go hiking/etc). That would be cool. Let me know how your schedule looks next week. You can call me at (your number here).
(Your name)”
This a pretty direct email, but personally I don’t like to mess around via email too much. I have found most women appreciate a direct approach. If she calls you things are looking good.
